On a scale of one to ten, with ten representing an optimal level of confidence and one representing minimal confidence, how would you rate your own self-confidence on the job? Are you feeling like you have lots of confidence, or are you feeling like this is an area where you need to grow? If you score yourself eight or above, you can celebrate. If you rate yourself a seven or below, you’ve obviously got work to do.
Maybe you’re not sure how to score yourself because you aren’t sure what has to be true in order to claim healthy self-confidence as one of your attributes. Does this describe YOU? If so, take a look at the following statements and see which of these fit you:
1. You believe in your abilities.
This means that you are in tune with your skills and trust that they can serve you and others when you employ them. For example, perhaps you have what it takes to lead teams so they are cohesive and productive. You’ve had several opportunities to function in this capacity, and people tell you that this is something you do exceptionally well. When you’re in the process of leading a team, you feel competent, steady, and appropriately challenged. Or maybe you excel at mediation and feel on top of the world while engaging in it. You actually know deep inside that you are able to do the work from start to finish, rarely if ever doubting it.
2. You feel ready to jump into a project or task.
You feel ready mostly because you’ve taken time to prepare for what lies ahead. You do your homework. You plan accordingly. You visualize the endpoint at the beginning of the process, and you can see it completed in your mind. An example? You must design a new product. In order to do this you identify all the people whose ideas you want to get first. You think about the product’s main purpose and how it might be unique. You consider the logistics for meeting this goal, the potential problems you could encounter. At some point you determine you have to take the plunge-and you do, never looking back.
3. You try new things.
This means you are occasionally willing to step out of your comfort zone. You’re open to abandoning the status quo, and you look forward to it. You speak up more than usual during staff meetings, you ask probing questions, you organize your files differently, you take on an additional assignment, you eat at a Thai restaurant for lunch when you typically have a burger. The point is that you take a step away from what you generally do. You experiment and view it as fun.
4. You are motivated and enthusiastic.
When the alarm clock goes off in the morning, you anticipate the day with interest and joy. You get out of bed, jump into the shower, hum a favorite tune. You dress with purpose, all the while contemplating all the wonderful opportunities that are coming your way. Yes, you may face a difficult meeting with your boss, but you know you can handle it. Thinking about the meeting doesn’t color your excitement about this brand new day. Basically, you love and appreciate life, and you are grateful for every experience.
5. You can make decisions.
This means that you are able to gather all the facts, listen to your intuition, and then do what needs to be done. Even if it’s tough. Even if your decision doesn’t make you popular. Even if your professional future is on the line. You can make choices between right and wrong, good and bad, wise and unwise, just and unjust, appropriate and inappropriate. You don’t avoid important issues. You don’t stall. You take a stand without constantly second-guessing yourself.
6. You are generally satisfied with your decisions and choices.
Once you make a decision or a choice, you accept it and the consequences associated with it. You can live with what you decide: about changing the date of the team meeting, about pushing an employee to go the extra mile for a critical reason, about firing somebody who is destroying staff morale. You are able to lay your decisions to rest rather than beating yourself up over them. In other words, you trust yourself to do what is best and then trust that all will be well in the long run as a result.
7. You stretch yourself voluntarily.
This means that you don’t wait for someone to push and prod you to go in a different direction, learn a new skill, initiate a challenging conversation, let go of a bad habit. You consciously choose to do these things on your own. You take yourself out of the little box you’re used to dwelling in day after day. You volunteer to take a business trip nobody else wants to take. You start a project that gives you butterflies in your stomach. You seek a new job after twenty years in a very comfortable chair.
8. You recover quickly from setbacks and disappointments.
When something doesn’t go the way you wanted it to go, you pick yourself up and move on. You avoid whining. You don’t allow yourself to lapse into dead-end thinking that maybe you should never have tried that particular project, should never have hired a certain person, should not have accepted this pain in the neck job. And you refrain from punishing yourself after you learn you didn’t get the pay raise, you weren’t selected as the primary department representative, you had more trouble than you ever expected learning the new computer program…You simply accept what is.
9. You don’t let yourself get stuck in fear.
This means you get up each day and do what needs to be done without fearing every move you or somebody else makes. You stay clear about your personal and professional priorities and live in alignment with them as much as possible. You step forward believing in yourself and all that you have become. You trust that you can deliver-on time, every time. You trust that most people are well intentioned and are not out to hurt you. You trust that the Universe is constantly conspiring for your greatest good.
10. You manage stress.
Managing stress requires some insight, knowledge, and good planning. A confident person recognizes when he/she is experiencing serious episodic or chronic stress and then actually does something to relieve it. A confident person refuses to just talk about it. A confident person takes meaningful action to reduce or eliminate this stress in responsible ways. An example? You and your boss have not been getting along for months. The situation is becoming problematic. You aren’t sleeping well at night as a result. A truly confident individual schedules a time to speak directly but respectfully with his/her boss about what is going on. A truly confident person doesn’t minimize the issue. A confident person seeks a solution.
In how many of these statements do you honestly see yourself? Five? Eight? What has to happen now? If the results are surprising to you, I urge you to take advantage of my one-hour focused coaching session and gain your confidence today!